Years ago, Boy Abunda interviewed local celebrity Claudine Barretto and asked her how she handles those who attack her.
This was a time when Claudine was at the peak of her career.
She answered that her mom taught her “You don’t start a fight but you don’t walk away from it.”
She further explained that, it means you don’t let others bring you down and that you always have to defend yourself.
I can never forget her answer. I loved her but I disagree with what she said.
For me, it’s better to choose your battles.
Every day, there are countless moments when we could be in a battle.
Every day, different people from all walks of life can start a fight with you. Are you going to engage them all just to defend yourself?
A rude cashier at the store.
A reckless driver.
A grumpy boss.
That nosy neighbor.
Sometimes, it’s best to just walk away. And even when you need to defend yourself, you can always choose to do so with grace and class. You don’t necessarily need to fight.
Of course, I’m not saying to become a wimp.
Choosing your battles means asking yourself, will this be worth it?
It means knowing when to fight, to keep silent, or to walk away.
And the choice you make can reveal the person that you are.